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Mar 3, 2023

CultNEWS101 Articles 3/3/2023 (Shaman, Donner, ICSA History, Cult Recovery, Larry Ray)

Shaman, Donner, ICSA History, Cult Recovery, Larry Ray

"Browsing through an antique bookstore in Quito, I stumbled on a book called Shabono: A Visit to a Remote and Magical World in the South American Rainforest, written by an anthropologist named Florinda Donner. Published in 1982, I expected it to be like most academic texts: interesting but long-winded and dusty. Instead, I got a gripping adventure that puts even Indiana Jones to shame.

The book opens with Donner, a German immigrant studying anthropology in California, feeling hopeless. She's spent weeks on the border between Venezuela and Brazil shadowing Indigenous healers who refuse to reveal the secrets of their trade. Preparing to return to the U.S. empty-handed, she befriends a kind but crazy old woman who wants to introduce her to her village, located deep inside the rainforest. The woman dies on the journey, and when Donner arrives at the village, she joins a ceremony where she drinks banana soup seasoned with the woman's ashes.

And that's just the first couple chapters. Later, Donner experiences existential hallucinations after snuffing epená, a tryptamine derivative, and narrowly avoids getting kidnapped by another tribe.

The story of Shabono is so compelling I found it hard to believe it was true, which – it turns out – it wasn't. While the book was praised for its writing, it was torn apart for lack of academic rigor. Some anthropologists believe Donner made everything up, claiming she never left the U.S. and plagiarized the account of a Brazilian woman who had once been held captive in the same region of the Amazon.

As shocked as I was to learn all this, the rabbit hole proved to go much, much deeper.

It's hard to separate the story of Florinda Donner from that of Carlos Castenada. Castenada, like Donner, was a California-based anthropologist accused of fabricating his studies on Indigenous healing. He claims to have met Don Juan Matus, the Yaqui sorcerer at the center of his bestselling 1968 book The Teachings of Don Juan, whilst waiting for a Greyhound bus in Arizona. Critics questioned Don Juan's existence, and Castenada, who didn't like being questioned, offered no help in trying to locate him.

Although The Teachings was shunned in academic circles, it made a huge impact on the general population. Castenada's recollections of inhaling the dust of psilocybin mushrooms and turning into a crow after smoking devil's weed were required reading for anyone involved in the sex and drugs culture of the late 60s.

Though he might have been a lousy anthropologist, Castenada was a masterful storyteller who knew how to use his gift to bewitch those around him. Following the publication of his third Don Juan book, Castenada – by then a multimillionaire – purchased a two-story house in Los Angeles' Westwood Village. This is where his personal writerly following would flourish into what some would now consider to have been a full-blown cult.

One of Castenada's followers was Gloria Garvin, who sought him out after reading The Teachings under the influence of pumpkin pie laced with hashish."
Robert E. Schecter, PhD, interviewed three exit counselors, David Clark, Joseph Kelly, and Patrick Ryan, on October 27, 2018 as part of a series of interviews designed to illuminate ICSA's history. The three men discuss the changes they have seen over the many years of their involvement in the field.


Lorna Goldberg (Author), William Goldberg (Author), Rosanne Henry & Michael Langone
"People are different, and different people will respond to the same environment in different ways. That is why the first clinical rule in working with former cult members and families is to remain flexible and not rigidly adhere to a clinical ideology. The chapters in this book reflect this attitude of openness, while describing how different experts approach the kinds of problems that might confront therapists working with former cult members and those with affected loved ones.

Though primarily aimed at helpers, the clearly written chapters of this 500-page book can help family members and former members of cultic situations, including those born or raised in such environments."
"For years, Lawrence V. Ray manipulated and exploited a group of young people who had lived with his daughter in a dormitory at Sarah Lawrence College. He didn't do it alone, prosecutors say: Among them was an enforcer.

Isabella Pollok became Mr. Ray's "trusted lieutenant," prosecutors have said, helping abuse her one time roommates. Descriptions of how she played a part in keeping Mr. Ray's followers' complaint and terrified emerged last year as former students testified at his trial, which led to a 60-year sentence for extortion, sex trafficking, racketeering conspiracy and other charges.

Ms. Pollok ran the accounts and meted out discipline, prosecutors said, pushing group members to serve and fund Mr. Ray across a decade and several states. One former student testified that Ms. Pollok and Mr. Ray showed up to a hotel room where she had been earning money for them by working as a prostitute. Ms. Pollok taunted her, the former student, Claudia Drury, said, and Mr. Ray assaulted her for as long as eight hours, placing a plastic bag over her head and threatening to kill her.

On Wednesday, a judge in Manhattan sentenced Ms. Pollok, who pleaded guilty last fall to a single count of conspiracy to launder money, to four and a half years in prison. That ends a case that began on the campus of an elite college in Westchester County with a progressive intellectual tradition then devolved into squalid scenes of abuse and domination played out in hotel rooms and homes in New York City and beyond.

When Ms. Pollok pleaded guilty, she offered no public explanation of why she had become devoted to Mr. Ray. Her lawyers since had argued that Ms. Pollok was "brainwashed" and that she had been too fully in Mr. Ray's thrall to act independently.

Among those who seem to have arrived at a similar view was Ms. Drury, who wrote to the court that, although she still puzzled over Ms. Pollok's behavior, she believed that her former roommate had lacked agency and deserved lenience.
Federal prosecutors had asked the judge, Lewis J. Liman of U.S. District Court, to impose a sentence of five years, writing that Ms. Pollok "held a privileged position" within what they called "the Ray family." They added that she was "responsible for managing Ray's finances, enforcing Ray's rules" and making and maintaining recordings of false confessions he elicited from followers, then used as leverage to demand payments."


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Feb 1, 2017

Judge restores rights for self-help guru James Arthur Ray, but convictions in sweat-lodge deaths stand

Alden Woods
The Republic | azcentral.com
January 30, 2017


An event Ray led in 2009 resulted in the deaths of 3 people.

CAMP VERDE — A Yavapai County Superior Court judge on Tuesday restored James Arthur Ray's right to vote and hold public office, but denied the self-help guru’s request to set aside three convictions for negligent homicide.

The judge said not enough time had passed since the October 2009 deaths of three people in a makeshift sweat lodge near Sedona.

Ray, once one of the country’s premier self-help entrepreneurs, served just under two years in prison for the deaths of Kirby Brown, 38; James Shore, 40; and Liz Neuman, 49.

Family members of the three people who died in the sweat lodge pleaded with the judge to leave the convictions in place. They said Ray was still trying to hide the truth and cared more about making money again.

Since his release in July 2013, Ray has tried to rebuild his business, and on Tuesday argued that the convictions have prevented him from international travel.

“My work was never on trial,” Ray told Judge Michael R. Bluff, claiming a Canadian lawyer had said it could take eight years before he’d be allowed to cross the northern border. An order to set aside his convictions, Ray said, would speed that process.

It had been eight years since Ray staged the sweat-lodge ceremony, the culmination of a five-day “Spiritual Warrior” retreat at the Angel Valley resort near Sedona. For the ceremony, Ray directed the 50 participants into a makeshift sweat lodge, a wood-framed shelter covered with tarps and blankets, and raised the temperature.

Many of the participants became ill or disoriented. Brown and Shore passed out and were left inside as people cleared the structure. Both died of heatstroke. Neuman was taken to a Flagstaff hospital and died nine days later.

Ray was charged with three counts of manslaughter and later convicted of the lesser charge of negligent homicide after a yearlong trial. He served time in the Arizona Department of Corrections from Nov. 22, 2011, to July 12, 2013, when he was placed on parole, according to records on the Corrections Department's website.

He was also ordered to pay $57,000 in restitution to the families of the three victims which, according to court records, has been paid.

Setting aside the convictions would not have cleared Ray’s criminal record, but would have altered the record to show that the judgment had been vacated. It would have allowed Ray to enter countries that restrict travel by convicted felons.

In her appeal to let the convictions stand, Yavapai County Attorney Sheila Polk gave most of her time to victims’ families. One after another, they stood to argue Ray had never fully accepted responsibility for their relatives’ deaths. They worried Ray could use a set-aside to portray himself as an innocent bystander.

“He’s not the victim,” said Virginia Brown, Kirby Brown's mother, who described Ray's claims as "a deliberate attempt to obfuscate the truth.”

“We’re here because the elephant is hiding in the room,” said George Brown, Kirby Brown's father, “and the elephant is money.”

“He was and is dangerous,” said Virginia Shore, sister of James Shore.

“I don’t think he has learned much from the criminal justice system,” Polk concluded.

After the testimony, Bluff explained his decision. It was simply a matter of time, he said.

“I’m just not comfortable that enough time has passed,” the judge said, adding that less than four years had passed since Ray was released from prison. He restored Ray’s rights to vote, hold public office and serve on a jury, but went no further.

Before the hearing, Ray had asked how long he should wait to apply for a second time, should his motion be denied. Bluff said he couldn’t answer that question, but family members of the victims pledged they’d be back for Ray’s next try.

"If we have to come back again, we will,” said Virginia Brown, Kirby’s mother and a co-founder of SEEK Safely, a non-profit organization designed to regulate the self-help industry.

Ray smiled as he left the courthouse. Getting back his civil rights, he said, was a start.

“I think the judge was fair, and I totally understand where he was coming from,” Ray said afterward. “He said I needed more time, and that’s OK.”

His business, Ray said, was helping people. That people happened to pay him was a necessity of life, not what he wanted. He said he would keep working, and keep making money, because he never killed anybody.

“The conviction is negligence,” he said.

“Negligent homicide,” a reporter added.

“Correct. Negligence, look it up,” Ray said, walking away. “I’m not here to retry the case.”

He hugged a fan, climbed into a Range Rover and was gone.

http://www.azcentral.com/story/news/local/arizona/2017/01/30/james-arthur-ray-asks-rights-restored-self-help-guru-convicted-sweat-lodge-deaths-near-sedona/97270546/

Dec 14, 2016

CultNEWS101 Articles: 12/14/2016 (Polish Conference, Napoleon Hill, Self-help, Tvind, Humana, People-to-People, Shinchonji, Korea, Jehovah'sWitnesses, legal, LGBT, Mormonism, LDS Church, Sri Chinmoy, Narcissism, James Arthur Ray)

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Polish Conference, Napoleon Hill, Self-help, Tvind, Humana, People-to-People, Shinchonji, Korea, Jehovah's Witnesses, legal, LGBT, Mormonism, LDS Church, Sri Chinmoy, Narcissism, James Arthur Ray



"For Stalowa KUL for four consecutive days, scientists from three continents, several countries will talk about how to prevent sects.The conference involved experts on the subject, among others, Japan, Canada, the United States, Great Britain, Spain, Italy, Austria, Finland, Denmark, Hungary, Slovakia, Ukraine and Polish. The conference will be workshops and panel sessions. Faculty of Law and of Social Sciences KUL in Stalowa Wola, co-organizer of the conference cultic American International Studies Association (internaszynal Keltika Stadis asosjejszyn) based in Florida. Marta Górecka"



"Napoleon Hill is the most famous conman you’ve probably never heard of. Born into poverty in rural Virginia at the end of the 19th century, Hill went on to write one of the most successful self-help books of the 20th century: Think and Grow Rich. In fact, he helped invent the genre. But it’s the untold story of Hill’s fraudulent business practices and membership in a New York cult that makes him so fascinating."




"A dossier on the Tvind Teachers Group. Are Humana People-to-People, Planet Aid, the Gaia Movement and DAPP siphoning off cash through tax havens? Is it a cult?"



"The Church of England has issued a formal alert to almost 500 parishes in London about the activities of the group known as Parachristo.... understood to be linked to a controversial South Korean group known as Shinchonji (SCJ) – or the “New Heaven and New Earth” church (NHNE) – whose founder Man-Hee Lee is referred to as God’s “advocate”."


"The leadership of the Jehovah’s Witnesses has boldly defied court orders to turn over the names and whereabouts of alleged child sexual abusers across the United States."

"The Royal Commission, which this week turned its attention to the Jehovah’s Witness organisation.

On Monday, the royal commission found that children were not adequately protected from the risk of sexual abuse in the Jehovah’s Witnesses."

"We begin in San Diego, where Trey meets an attorney trying to get access to a Jehovah’s Witnesses database containing the names and whereabouts of likely thousands of accused child abusers within the organization – living freely in communities across the U.S."

"Later in the hour, we hear from a victim who tells us how the threat of being banished from their communities keeps members from reporting abuse."


"A prominent gay-rights activist and former U.S. presidential candidate hopes to build "the biggest, loudest and most comprehensive" legal case ever mounted for revoking the tax-exempt status of the Mormon church."

"He alleges LDS Church involvement in opposing same-sex marriage initiatives in as many as 26 states and the use of Mormon meetinghouses for political organizing."


"A new Guinness World Record has been set in the US for most candles on a birthday cake - where a staggering 72,585 candles were lit on the occasion of late Indian spiritual leader Sri Chinmoy's 85th birth anniversary.
Chinmoy Kumar Ghose, better known as Sri Chinmoy, taught meditation in the West after moving to New York City in 1964."
"After watching CNN’s two-hour, December 4, 2016 documentary on the rise and fall motivational speaker James Arthur Ray, I came away from it with a sense of appreciation for good film making as well as a sullen gut reaction to the horror of three people dying in one of Ray’s over-crowded, very expensive, “spiritual warrior,” sweat lodge challenges. The sweat lodge scam was one of his best personal income ventures."


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Dec 11, 2016

CultNEWS101 Articles: 12/12/2016 (Memory, Hare Krishna, Word of Life, La Meute, Scientology, James Ray, Vatican, Islam, Boko Haram, Polygamy, Anne Hamilton-Byrne, Bountiful, FLDS, Legal Cases)

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Memory, Hare Krishna, Word of Life, La Meute, Scientology, James Ray, Vatican, Islam, Boko Haram, Polygamy, Anne Hamilton-Byrne, Bountiful, FLDS, Legal Cases


"[A] study demonstrated that about half of individuals will come to believe a fictional event occurred if they are told about that event and then repeatedly imagine it happening."






"A new study published on Nov. 28 shows the human brain can create memories of events that never occurred, and these false memories can subsequently change how people view themselves and others."






"The Hare Krishna movement was founded in New York City 50 years ago by an Indian teacher, A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada, and soon began resonating with young people who were disillusioned with establishment mores and in search of new forms of spirituality and self-expression."




"Traci Irwin, the matriarch of the Word of Life Church in Chadwicks, was sentenced in Oneida County Court on Monday to one year in jail for each of the two counts of criminal imprisonment she pleaded guilty to in October."






"La Meute — or Wolf Pack — has attracted more than 43,000 people to a secret Facebook group in little over a year.



There, they exchange calls to boycott halal products, circulate petitions against government policies that foster multiculturalism and post stories from little-known publications about the influence of the Muslim Brotherhood in Quebec."


http://www.cultnews101.com/2016/12/watch-letter-to-james-ray-from-jean.html

"A beta version of a new website featuring resources for the prevention of clerical sexual abuse around the world made its debut on Tuesday, launched by the Pontifical Commission for the Protection of Minors created by Pope Francis and led by Cardinal Sean O'Malley of Boston."


"The Church of Scientology said in a statement to E! News. “Rinder is trying to do what he knows anti-Scientologists have done for years, intentionally misinterpret and unfairly tarnish the Church. The truth is that current Church leadership never has and never would tolerate unethical conduct, which is why individuals like Rinder were removed.”"



"Rinder left his native Australia to live aboard L. Ron Hubbard's ship, the Apollo, the floating headquarters of the religion from which the Sea Org operated. He became one of the first members of the Commodore's Messenger Organization, and quickly rose up the ranks to his position as Head of the Office of Special Affairs, an elite position that he says put him by David Miscavige's side as Hubbard's health declined."



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“If the Church believed that someone was an enemy that needed to be silenced or destroyed, it was my job and I did it," Rinder said. "If I was told to follow someone, I made it happen. If I was told to discredit someone, dig up dirt on them, get their backgrounds investigated I made it happen."





"If you’re stuck with what to buy the Scientologist (or would-be Scientologist) in your life to mark the holiday, or wondering what the heck you’d put under the tree for Tom Cruise, look no further than Scientology’s 2016 Holiday and Gift Catalogue."





"We’re only two episodes into Leah Remini: Scientology and the Aftermath, and the show has already found an impassioned audience. The show has been praised by critics but has yet to dominate the blogging landscape in the way that HBO’s Going Clear once did. However, reactions on Reddit and Twitter prove that audiences have been watching and they are outraged."




Can one generation’s mistake be corrected by the next?

"Muslims have also become the victims of a confining caricature which has helped build the new right. Race and religion will take a central place in the creation of a new Europe, and the right will use Islam and Muslims to create totalitarianism."



Men walk amid rubble after Boko Haram militants raided the town of Benisheik in northeast Nigeria, on Sept. 19. The Islamist group has been waging an insurgency in northern and central Nigeria for the past four years and was recently placed on the U.S. list of terrorist groups.

"Boko Haram, whose name translates to "western education is sin," accuses Christians of guiding the nation's education system, which contradicts several of the radicals' beliefs, such as that the Earth is flat."






"She was beautiful, and even those who didn’t believe her claim to be a reincarnation of Christ admitted she was mesmerising. She taught a yoga class and her great trick was to find unhappy women, often middle-aged ones neglected by their husbands, and offer them affection and spiritual direction. She’d give them LSD..."




"A judge says he will deliver his verdict on Feb. 3 in the case of three people from a polygamous community in British Columbia who are charged with removing girls from Canada for a sexual purpose."


"A federal judge has ordered a company with ties to a polygamous sect to pay at least $200,000 in back wages to children who were sent to work picking pecans for long hours in the cold."





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Dec 10, 2016

Self Inflation and Contagious Narcissism

Joseph Szimhart
jszimhart@gmail.com
http://jszimhart.com/blog/sweat_lodge_deaths
December, 2016

After watching CNN’s two-hour, December 4, 2016 documentary on the rise and fall motivational speaker James Arthur Ray, I came away from it with a sense of appreciation for good film making as well as a sullen gut reaction to the horror of three people dying in one of Ray’s over-crowded, very expensive, “spiritual warrior,” sweat lodge challenges. The sweat lodge scam was one of his best personal income ventures.

I will explain below why modern sweats, like fire-walks, in my view are scams.

The filmmakers managed to convey fairly and in depth an aspect of American culture that emerged in spades by the late 19th century. Rugged individualism and the positive programming of the American Dream—Be All You Can Be—has been co-opted by a billion-dollar self-help industry of large group awareness workshops. I include many mega-churches lately run by Robert Schuler and currently Joel Osteen in this heady mix with est/Landmark, Lifespring, Psi-World, Amway, and the long list of mass training gurus including Tony Robbins, Werner Erhard, Covey, Eckhart Tolle, James Arthur Ray, and Byron Katie. There are dozens more. If you read and believed Norman Vincent Peale, Og Mandino, and Dale Carnegie, you are in this ballpark. You dwell in this social institution called Self-Inflation University.

Maybe you, the modern seeker, read some Nietzsche and Ayn Rand to reinforce this selfism. Maybe you took yoga classes or seek that special diet. Maybe you absorb the cosmic infusions from ambient music. Maybe you speak to the universe and believe that the universe will respond to your positive thought—you know, the law of attraction since someone let that “secret” out of the bag. Self-improvement, self-development, self-realization, enlightened self-interest, the selfish gene, the higher self, self-awareness, and mindfulness.

Maybe you tried affirmations from a New Thought book or religion—over one hundred years ago, the most famous one was Every Day and in Every Way, I Am Getting Better and Better. Millions of Americans were doing it. You came to believe that religion can be a more precise science than neurobiology. Forgive me—I meant “spirituality” as you are by no means merely religious like those calcified old ladies in the pews of common churches.

Be all you can be? What on earth can that mean? And how much BETTER can you get anyway? We get the incentive. Any healthy human being gets that much: We all want to improve. But at what and how? This is where the self-help gurus come in. Nearly everyone that pays out hundreds or thousands of dollars up front for one of the life and prosperity workshops or intensives is already lost. They do not know and they want to know what will work for them and what is blocking their potential. That is why they are there. To make a breakthrough! Somewhere in life their egos have been damaged, wounded, or traumatized, or in the least somehow limited. Common regulated therapy is too slow or is not working. Maybe they have not gone deep enough and you need a deeper experience.

Narcissistic traits that we all have and need are not bad—we need them to get by, to put our best selves forward to get a job or a spouse. Traits are not disorders. We must believe in ourselves to some degree or we might not get up in the morning. Our best self can be compromised by anxiety. Anxiety is the most commonly diagnosed psych disorder. We all feel it to some degree nearly every day, but most people cope with it well enough. Those who do not cope feel wounded. Forces around them and within them reflect a poor self-image or at least one not good enough.

Wounded narcissists are not bad people, but they are particularly vulnerable to mass therapies that promise to tap that special self within that is pure and wonderful once the layers of social conditioning and trauma are “broken through.” If only those god-damned, self-imposed limitations and environmentally fierce blocks could be somehow removed, they say to themselves. Well, the run-of-the-mill self-help guru or life coach is there for you to help engineer a break through. Just sign the waiver and prepare for several days or more of a psychological roller coaster.

Break throughs are those a-ha moments when the client feels a profound release or insight that has a potentially life-changing effect. These engineered breakthroughs may be authentic—some people do change bad habits after a mass therapy workshop—but at what price? For most, the positive take away is short term or vague at best, especially when we read testimonials from the “94%” (claimed by Landmark) satisfied customers. They sound like testimonials from rare Amway success stories. The cost is more than money.

Most of the mass trainings promise to change you or “shift” your perspective. Let me get to the point. Anyone who is placed in an extraordinary situation or experiences an ecstasy will absorb the influences and language in that environment. The influences include the admonition to spread the good news of your transformation at the Bobby Ray or Whoever Tony workshop, and maybe to ask for forgiveness of anyone you may have harmed to somehow end past karma. Of course, when you so energetically ask for forgiveness or exude over your “experience,” you are also recruiting. And that is the point. The owners of these businesses want to funnel as many people as they can into their self-experience machines that will spit out recruiters at the other end. The model is understandable if one is selling cars, herbal products, or cosmetics, but it gets very strange when the product is your Self.

The question to ask is what self emerges from a J A Ray sweat lodge ceremony? Can that sacred self, the “spiritual warrior” be forced into manifestation during an engineered experience in group trainings or spiritual retreats? The answer is no. That is the scam. The good feeling of having made a breakthrough in front of a crowd after a public confession will always subside. All highs from ecstasy subside when the endorphins stop dancing in your brain. However, the leader tells you not to let this insight go, to reinforce it in how you communicate with others and choose your path going forward. So, you adopt the language of the group or life coach, and you start sounding like one of “them” to your friends and family. The change is that you sound like one of them and not that you have suddenly become a better person. The point is that you could have become a better person with a little effort all on your own and still sounded like yourself.

One definition of a brainwashed or radically influenced person resides in language: If he talks like us, he is one of us. This is true for any culture, be it Austria or a gang in Chicago. However, you have a better shot at being your authentic self as an Austrian than you will as a gang member. It is a matter of constriction. Smaller groups with enthusiastic members will tend to self-seal or create an us-them culture.

J R Ray’s sweat lodge experiencers were in shock when people died. They all had to question why they put up with so much pain and why they lost their common sense. Those who broke away finally did make a real breakthrough. They no longer trusted the narcissist who absorbed them into his theater, his culture, his personality cult world. They shed the language and re-learned how to talk authentically. They no longer believed that men should aspire to be gods who are the true spiritual warriors.

Just ask Zeus.

J A Ray violated authentic sweat lodge intent.
http://www.cnn.com/2016/12/01/us/canada-sweat-lodge/

James A Ray's comeback angers victims
http://jszimhart.com/blog/sweat_lodge_deaths